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Therapist Recommends Cooking As A Form Of Therapy – What Should I Do?


I thought of seeing a therapist after a psychologist diagnosed that I had mild depression. Taking antidepressants was out of the equation since I refused even to take medicine to treat flu or fever. I wanted an organic way to handle my issues – something that I could try, especially when dark thoughts would creep in my mind.

A friend recommended her therapist to me, whom she said is not like anyone I have encountered in the past. Of course, upon hearing that, I doubted the professional’s ability for a second. At the time, I was still carrying the notion that therapists would talk to me one-on-one, ask me to talk about my issues, and help me cope with them. I thought, “If that person was unlike the others, then what could I gain from him?”

Armed only with my faith in my friend’s words, I went to set up an appointment with the recommended therapist. The woman I met looked like she’s in her 50s. Her office has a relaxed atmosphere; everything was in white and mocha with pops of color here and there.

Being offered the choice to sit on the couch or the chair in front of her desk was already a massive plus for me. I thought, “Hmm, she’s nice.” We exchanged pleasantries, and she allowed me to talk about what I wanted to talk about. Then, the first words that came out of her mouth afterward were, “Is there any activity that you hate doing because you find it tedious?”

I didn’t know where the conversation was headed, but I replied, “Yes. Cooking.”

The therapist said, “Before I help you understand other coping mechanism techniques, I would love for you to start cooking first. Sometimes, it helps to make ourselves do things that we’re not used to. It can be a simple form of therapy.”


Should I Cook Or Not?

I left the therapist’s clinic with that question in mind. I still stand by my initial opinion of it as a troublesome activity. I love to eat, but I don’t like cooking my food. My reason is that I can always buy ready-made stuff or order something from my favorite restaurant.

Nevertheless, since it was a mental health professional’s suggestion, I gave cooking a shot. I found a simple pasta recipe online that merely asked for a few ingredients that I already had at home. It tasted bland, but the experience wasn’t too bad. I tried making an omelet for my man the next day, and he praised me for it. It made me happy.

The more I cooked, the more I managed to let go of my issues. When I went back to the therapist, she asked, “How are you?” I smiled and talked about how my life has changed since I started cooking. We still went through several sessions after that, but I knew that it would not have been possible if I didn’t listen to the therapist’s first recommendation.

Bonus: Top 3 Cookware For Cooking Newbies

Finding the best cookware for beginners has not been easy. I have always been aware that there are different pots and pans for every dish, but I have had no clue as to what to get for myself. In case you are in the same boat as I was, here are some tips for you.



Skillets are lifesavers when you wish to fry omelet or meat without the extra oil that some cooking products require. My brand of choice for this is Cuisinart because most of their pans are non-stick and therefore let me eat healthily. The one I currently use is the 12-inch Open Skillet with Helper Handle. It is a real keeper because it is made from scratch-proof and durable ceramic that is easy to clean and free from harmful chemicals.


I am a sucker for stews and casseroles, that’s why I need items like the aluminum saucepans from Calphalon Contemporary in which food will not get stuck on the sides or at the bottom. The cost of the ingredients in any recipe often inflate, and so it will be an absolute waste of money if you can eat a portion of what you have initially put in the cookware.

Dutch Oven

The Lodge L8DD3 Double Dutch Oven brings a lot of convenience to me every single time that my entire family comes over, and I have to cook for no less than 15 adults. Its size is incredible as this can hold a large ham or turkey. Since the cast-iron allows heat to be distributed evenly, anything I prepare with this over a campfire, a stovetop or an oven is cooked so well.

Final Thoughts

Cooking, in my opinion, is a valid form of therapy that not everyone talks about. You should try if you still haven’t. Cheers!

Family-Centered And Child-Inclusive Divorce


Kim Bowen, LPC says “Marriage is risky business. Divorce is a real threat to EVERYONE who says “I do.”

A broken family is one of the primary reasons that could impact a child’s development as they grow older. We can only count on two results, negative and positive but never the neutral. For some, the separation of their parents might be one of the driving factors to become a better person and learn from their mistakes. But on the other side of the fence, the effect is too devastating and unbearable. We can never empathize with these situations unless you are a product of such circumstances; however, there are professionals out there who specialize in these cases (for therapy) and could help both of the parties involved in the divorce process which mainly includes the child. Pat Skinner, LPC says “When a biological parent finds a new partner, the children are often expected to show love and respect for that new partner right away”

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A Quick Guide To Mindfulness 

If there is one essential thing that you must prioritize in this life, it is achieving complete mindfulness. You need to be able to learn how to become mindful of everything in your life. Learn how to live in the present so that you will have a better future. Take note that for every action, there is always a corresponding consequence. According to Brittany Gilchrist, MA, LPC, CEDS, “Learn to utilize your senses to connect with the present moment. Connecting more fully with the senses is a way to become grounded to the present moment.”

Mindfulness includes knowing and identifying your responsibilities in every aspect of your life. Be sure to check and read the rest of the article if you want to find some tips on how you can get started with mindfulness:



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