Kim Bowen, LPC says “Marriage is risky business. Divorce is a real threat to EVERYONE who says “I do.”
A broken family is one of the primary reasons that could impact a child’s development as they grow older. We can only count on two results, negative and positive but never the neutral. For some, the separation of their parents might be one of the driving factors to become a better person and learn from their mistakes. But on the other side of the fence, the effect is too devastating and unbearable. We can never empathize on these situations unless you are a product of such circumstance; however, there are professionals out there who specialize in these cases (for therapy) and could help both of the parties involved in the divorce process which mainly includes the child. Pat Skinner, LPC says “When a biological parent finds a new partner, the children are often expected to show love and respect for that new partner right away”
It’s understandable that a lot of us are carrying tons of issues with our family that we want to get rid of our chest. However, the process of confronting these vital individuals is a bit complicated, especially when they assume that you are trying to overreact only to grab their attention. Some would accuse you of trying to get too emotional only for recognition. A family member might say that you’re too crazy for having wrong and ridiculous thoughts. With that said, they don’t understand the struggle of wanting someone to be there in times of sorrow and pain.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation that you don’t do anything but all of a sudden you feel the pressure of anxiety? You feel like your heart is raising so fast, your mind starts to black out, and you experience uneasiness in your chest and stomach. And the more you fight it, the more badly it gets. So from there, you start thinking about stuff because you don’t want other people to notice you being anxious. You struggle in remaining cool. Your anxiety gets triggered due to the negative limiting beliefs. It reads social situations as something that either puts you off-guard or in an alert mode.
According to Christina Furnival, LPCC, “When we are anxious our bodies and brains can enter ‘fight or flight’ mode, leaving us to feel on edge with a small frustration-tolerance window.”
When you see the anxiety in the situation you are in, especially in front of a lot of people, you begin to filter a possible danger. There’s a hyper-alert that’s going on in your brain because you think that at any moment, something terrible might happen. Things like embarrassing yourself, worries about other people’s criticisms, and different unavoidable scenarios that put you in a state where you can no longer function. All of these social anxiety signs are the result of the brain’s activated survival response called the fight-flight-freeze response. It pumps the adrenaline through your veins, it rushes blood away from your head, your throat tightens up, and it upsets your digestive system out to your outer limbs.
Technically, when fight-flight-freeze response gets activated, it puts your whole over-all function in survival mode. It makes you choose between hiding and running from the dangers of what your mind interprets. So when anxiety seems to be the problem you are trying to get rid of, it’s entirely not the real issue, or at least not the only thing that you need to worry about. The real underlying problem is the unsafe environment and social situations that your subconscious inputs in your head. And because it sees danger everywhere, you automatically respond with anxiety symptoms.
John R. Montopoli, LMFT, LPCC says “Be gentle with yourself. Remember the famous saying, “it’s progress, not perfection.” Keeping with these skills will help reduce brooding and post-event rumination.”
Anxiety In Social Situations
Since social anxiety is the result of the mind’s firing-up from danger, the effort in focusing alone on removing it won’t work at all. Therefore, the only action you can do is deal with what activates the fight-flight-freeze response. There’s a need to put the subconscious mind in focus of diversion. It needs to think differently and believe that there’s no danger in social situations. Because when the mind believes that you are safe in any social setting, there’s going to be no trace of anxiety symptoms.
The mind reacts through these limiting beliefs that activate the fight-flight-freeze response which mainly brings anxiety. So to be able to change that perception of harmful elements in your head, there must be neutralization of the limiting beliefs. By thinking that you are unique, you accept yourself, that you are more than good enough, and people can like you, you’ll genuinely attract the positive thoughts. And once you finally neutralize the compilation of your negative limiting beliefs, the subconscious mind sees you safe from the social environment.
Make sure to be around the right people. According to Marni Goldberg, LPC, “However, again, being around people who care about you is a valuable source of support.”
Asthma is a lung condition where the bronchial muscles contract, blocking the air and making it difficult to breathe. Various factors can trigger an asthma attack such as allergens, infections, pollution, trauma or fatigue. Asthma can be of two types: intrinsic and extrinsic.
Intrinsic asthma is a type of asthma which doesn’t have an identifiable cause of attack while extrinsic is the opposite. The triggering factor is known. Some asthma attacks are abrupt while some can last for several days. They often start after a few minutes of being exposed to a triggering agent.
Hives are outbreaks of itchy red wheals that are elevated smoothly on the skin with usually blanched centers. It can induce itchiness, a burning feeling, or a stinging sensation on the affected surface. They appear anywhere in the body in different shapes, sizes, and numbers and are very irritating. Its causes are too plenty, which makes diagnosis hard. Currently, an estimated 20% of the human population will experience it in their lifetime at some point.
Imagine a jellyfish floating around the sea. That’s how we would look like without our bones. An adult body is composed of 206 bones which provide frame and support. Bones work with our muscles to make us move. They serve as protection to our vital organs such as the heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, and the brain. Without them, the inside of our body will be vulnerable to trauma.
If you’re fond of viewing different video clips online, you’ll see that more content producers show men trying stuff that only women can do, biologically speaking or not. That includes putting makeup on, stimulating pregnancy, wearing high heels, taking contraceptive pills, etc. In the end, they tend to express how lucky they are to be born without such worries.
While there’s nothing offensive in that statement, there are still women-related diseases that can also affect men. Read on to know more about them.
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As unbelievable as it seems, guys are not exempted from acquiring breast cancer. The reason is that men, like women, have breast tissues where lumps can develop. They are just more abundant in the latter, so the cases involving the former are quite rare.
The products that promote bone health for aged folks often depict females alone. That is an absolute misrepresentation, however, because the senior males can have osteoporosis too.
In truth, the bone density in men can deplete rapidly once they go beyond the 50s. It’s just that the usual signs that women notice are not too obvious when it comes to the opposite sex.
Lupus causes the swelling of glands, eyes, joints, and legs. As an autoimmune disease, scientists are yet to figure out what makes people obtain such an illness. It can also be difficult to find a lot of information regarding men who have this disease since 90% of the diagnosed patients belong to the female population.
Fungal infection is another disorder that males can get but is normally just linked to women. Honestly speaking, the microscopic yeast strains that may already be inside or outside the body may germinate in moist regions. Meaning, the inner part of the mouth and the foreskin. The risk increases if you’re either a diabetic or popping antibiotics a lot.
An illness involving the thyroid glands occurs when your system generates too much (hyperthyroidism) or too little (hypothyroidism) of metabolism-regulating hormones. Weight gain, lack of sleep, and mood swings are the common symptoms of the hypothyroidism, while hyperthyroidism causes weight and energy losses.
Urinary tract infection (UTI) and diverse bladder-related diseases are typically associated with females. Regardless of that, males have a tendency to acquire any of them as well due to possible prostate or kidney issues. The infection becomes evident once it’s painful to urinate, there’s blood mixed with the urine, and there’s fever.
The problem may not be familiar to you, yet know that middle-aged men may experience the symptoms of menopause too. Doctors blame it on the decline of testosterone levels that males go through as they age.
Women are predominantly connected to eating disorders because of body image, but men may also suffer from it. The list can comprise the gay, the obese, and the athletic – different types of males who often feel the need to conform to beauty standards. Few are diagnosed, though, as not everyone can admit that they have this issue.
Change, according to sayings of old, is the only constant thing on the planet.
Simply put, it is your body’s natural reaction to any danger or pressure. The cause may be different each time, yet stress can still take a toll on your well-being. Now, it appears like something else is vying for the same recognition. “Dealing with distress is difficult. By its very nature, distress is great pain, acute suffering, and extreme misfortune,” said Casey Radle, LPC. In fact, there are studies linking it to a broad range of illnesses.
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How Stress Aggravates Ailments
Stress is technically a psychological strain that affects anyone. Since it occurs in mind, though, many may not accept that it can make your current health condition worse. But stress is very much capable of doing so because it slows down your system from acting against inflammations. Hence, by the time the antibodies come into force, the pathogens already began spreading.
What Stress Does To Diseases
Being aware of the illnesses that life pressure may inflict on you allows you to tread on stressful waters with caution. Below are some of them.
Jeremy Savage, MA, LPC said “Mindfulness is a helpful skill to learn because it lets you observe these “uncomfortable thoughts, feelings and physical sensations without judgment.”
Children rarely have demanding activities to worry about, so they should ideally be safe from stress. As it turns out, however, the mother can pass it on to them during pregnancy. The stakes of acquiring asthma from birth, therefore, increases.
Worsen Alzheimer’s Disease
The lesions that appear in the brain of an Alzheimer’s patient may grow in size or number with stress at play. While nothing’s set in stones, it’s essential to reduce the sources of the latter to thwart speeding up the degeneration.
of cortisol becomes unbalanced. Thus, you may detect that your pants or dresses no longer fit your body.
Sleep deprivation comes to light when you accept more tasks than you can manage. When your mind should be resting, various ideas may run rampant even with your eyes closed. If you don’t do something about it, the problem can lead to insomnia.
This gastrointestinal problem is known to affect the lining of several internal organs, including esophagus, stomach, and intestines. Scientists link stress to it since you either consume unhealthy meals or not eat at all; hence, the bad bacteria can take over your gut.
Bring About Coronary Diseases
An increase in the cortisol generation may also influence heart attacks from taking place after a while. Too much of this hormone can encourage the white blood cells to stick to the blood vessels. The action creates plaque, which will then stop the regular blood flow to and from the pumping muscle.
To eliminate the chances of acquiring or elevating the symptoms of a disease, stay away from activities or people that cause your stress. Elizabeth York, M.Ed, LPC, LMFT says “An understanding of the basics of stress management may help.”
Diabetes is a rather frightening disease not only because it’s incurable but also because it’s so easy to acquire. You drink alcohol, smoke and consume a lot of food, and you’ll most likely be diagnosed with it after a few years. In case the illness runs within your family too, even eating sweets bit by bit may trigger it to appear.
Nonetheless, those are simply the publicly known reasons for getting the disease. Below are the other practices that make you prone to diabetes.
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You should have your first meal in the morning, never around 12 noon, to ensure you won’t feel constantly hungry. Skipping breakfast will interrupt the normal flow of insulin in your body, which causes the blood sugar levels to fluctuate.
Using Plenty of Butter
This dairy product may taste so good on pancakes or dishes, yet it is teeming with saturated fat. That’s the kind of fat that may clog your arteries and may not be affected by the insulin you produce.
Staying Up Late At Night
When you lack sleep and need to wake up early the next day, it’s not just your brain that seems disoriented. Your metabolism goes haywire as well, so it may be difficult for you to control the blood sugar.
Although carbohydrates give you energy to finish tasks daily, you should opt for whole-grain choices. The ones that come in white (e.g. rice, pasta, and regular bread) contain starch, which causes weight gain and diabetes.
Microwaving Food in Plastic Containers
It’s quite effortless to store your leftovers in a plastic container that you can pop in the microwave anytime, right? But transfer them in non-plastic bowls from now on as some ingredients for the vessel are found to be insulin-proof.
Staring at the TV show or movie that plays on your monitor for hours means you barely move your body. The existing fats, therefore, remain stagnant and may prevent your system from accepting more insulin to regulate the blood sugar.
Hiding From The Sun
Vitamin D is a vital nutrient that the body creates when you stay under the sun often. There are scientists who say that it allows the pancreas, the main insulin producer, to function more efficiently.
Probiotics are living microorganisms that can propagate within and keep your gut healthy and safe from bad bacteria. Yogurt products are pumped with various probiotic strains, as well as kimchi, cheese, and other pickled goodies.
Not Drinking Coffee
Several types of research divulged that sipping coffee on a daily basis can make you 33% less prone to diabetes than non-drinkers. That is not a negligible percentage at all. In case you don’t like some effects of normal coffee, drinking a decaf may generate similar results too.
Living With Stress
Stress will never be a positive sign of health. Other than visibly aging your appearance or short-circuiting your fuse, it can also increase your body’s production of cortisol. This hormone usually helps fight inflammation, but when it’s released for no reason, it can destabilize your blood sugar levels.